Eclipses and Turning Points
Just in case you’ve missed it, our entire nation – world really – is in chaos. I keep trying to disconnect from the heavy load out there and find the joy and the laughter. It’s difficult since even my social feeds are full of opinions and a focus on the ugly parts of our world, the hatred. And since I’m one of the weird ones – and totally okay with that – I follow a lot of the mystical world, the energetic world, astrology and so forth. I’ve been listening to quite a few things that cause me to think and now, share.
Human beings have evolved since the dawn of time, thank God. We’ve evolved individually and collectively. During evolution, things come in to our awareness that we learn from – good and bad. In my world, we call them the Light and the Shadow. It is our mind that gives the judgment call. Astrologically, eclipses land around the time that we need to grow…a pulse point if you will. We’re all focused on this eclipse today, even though they actually happen quite regularly and are typically visible somewhere in the world.
So here we are in the middle of several planetary retrogrades, some rather unusual with these eclipses and transitions taking place and the utter chaos we’re feeling and seeing surrounds us. And we’re engaged. Some more than others, but we are fully engaged in the raging battle of what is right and what is wrong.
It reminds me of a quote out of Power vs. Force: “We change the world not by what we say or do, but as a consequence of what we have become.” Yes, slavery was bad. Yes, politicians do things for gain and not ‘for the right reasons.’ Yes, the KKK are uneducated awful people, along with a few other groups that have cropped up. Yes to all of the viewpoints you have on this issue or any of the others that stick in your mind and give you a reason to be pissed. But I urge you to take a step back and look at where we are from a much higher vantage point.
Any time we evolve, whether at a personal level or in a community, we must have something that causes the evolution to occur…something that triggers the shadow so that it can be brought to light. Think about the last time you had to change something in your life. Your health, a relationship, a job or an entire career…what doesn’t challenge us, doesn’t change us as the saying goes.
This is not a black and white time, an either/or. This is a complex period of time where we have to move from the 3rd chakra into the 4th. This is a time to bring about what is within each of us. This is a time of distinction. If you take a look at your family or the community you run in, or even your job, you’ll find that there are those who are strong in some areas and not so much in others. For example, I’m a big picture person and need those around me that are excellent at details. I need to own my strengths and weaknesses, my Light and my Shadow selves. Now it’s time to call you out. Today of all days, where are you eclipsing your own light?
The truth is, there isn’t one of us that isn’t claiming that we’re kind, compassionate and empathetic and at the same time giving the virtual (or even physical) finger to someone else. We’ve been locked in a power struggle for so long, it’s hard to have the grace to step out, much less allow or even celebrate another’s differences. By stepping out and away from the struggle, by going within to find what makes you tick, by leveraging THAT and sharing it with someone who needs what you have to offer…that’s how we transition. THAT is how we BECOME the nation we truly want to see. THAT is evolution.
Utopia isn’t a thing we can achieve as a collective. There are far too many concepts of what that world would truly look like. There are, however, many ways to move into a more functional – and loving – world.
Over the coming days and weeks, you’ll see the chaos peak and hopefully begin to settle. During that time, I encourage you to disconnect from anything that keeps you distracted from who you really are. Right now, racism is a buzzword, yet within most of our own circles we truly see people of all races getting along just fine. Oppression, whether by religion, gender, race or any other affiliation is another ‘in your face’ topic. Again, look around. What do you really see?
Evil will always exist. Power struggles will continue, individually and in a broader spectrum. There will ALWAYS be growth potential, always a place we evolve from and then to. We must recognize that the shadows, the dark, come to our awareness when we are ready to change. Do you see it, this pivot point we are all feeling in some way or other?
Look for what sparks you. IS it oppression? If so, of what? Dig deep. It’s important to know because that’s your work. THAT is where you start. Get involved in what drives you OUTSIDE of social media. Learn more about what changes can or need to take place and how you can participate. That 3rd chakra energy is all about self-esteem and the warrior energy. This is where we’ve been. The 4th chakra that we’re moving into is our heart center. In the heart chakra, there is no conflict. That may be that utopian concept that we can’t achieve, but we can move towards it. We can recognize those that seek to disrupt our journeys as distractions we don’t have to engage in. We can turn off the news; we can unfollow pages that don’t serve us. We can, we can, and we CAN focus on what we DO want. We can be okay with someone who doesn’t look like us, think like us, pray like us or in any way BE like us. And likewise, I’m not required to make you feel okay with where you are, to find a special trophy or pin to let you be you. That keeps us in the 3rd chakra, the one we should be outgrowing.
If we really DO want change, we can do so by creating movements. Movements bring awareness and inspire others to join. Inspiration doesn’t require yelling, protests, being right, criticizing others or patronizing them. Inspiration stirs us to action. It doesn’t push. Inspiration makes us WANT to get on board, to join hands and make changes. As the Persian Mystic Rumi said, “Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.”
I hope that today – and moving forward – you find your calling, that you see the Shadow within you and bring it to light. The freedom that comes from recognizing who you really are, is liberating and automatically gives others permission to do the same thing. Think of just how much energy you’ll have to focus on bringing joy, purpose and magic into this world when you let go of what no longer serves.
Today, focus on what you’re planning on bringing forward. We’re almost at full steam ahead as the eclipse makes it’s way across the US. Be sure you’re focused on what you DO want…because it’s coming.
Guilty and exhausted. And so over it.
It seems to be a trend...one that's been gaining steam for a decade or more. People who would never in a million years be argumentative or confrontational face to face get behind their keyboards and launch missiles to friends, family and anyone who's able to see their news feed. Looks, weight, personality, religion, politics...fashion. No subject is sacred, no limitations on what is said, and by God, your opinion not only matters, it MUST be heard.
So we post our 'peace, love and light', 'God is all things, can I get an Amen', followed by a little 'go fuck yourself' in whatever topic we're on a rant about that moment. I don't know about you, but the topic that fills my feed is political these days. (Thankfully I don't have a fashionable bone in my body and so far no one has seemed to notice, so I'm not taking any heat there...yet.)
My take-aways from these sometimes funny and sometimes outright ludicrous posts and exchanges is this:
NONE of us fit in a box. Not a damn one of us. I'm a conservative. I have friends and family that are conservative and liberal, but we hardly end there.
While we don't fit in a box, our beliefs - political, religious and otherwise - DO shape our perception of the world we live in. And from there, every thing and every one is a piece of our story. Our story about ourselves and our story about others.
We truly DO love heroes and villains. And if they need to be celebrities or politicians or friends and family, then, well, there you go. So be it. It's our own story after all...we can make it be whatever we want.
ALL of us want to feed the poor, take care of those who can't, protect our own, help those who are trying so hard to escape hellish places, and for the love of all things holy, be able to support ourselves and our families.
A whole lot of simplification, but at the end of the day, just about every conservative and every liberal I know and the spectrum in between agrees on these points. If that's true, why are families dividing? Why are we losing friends with a 'good riddance' attitude? Why is our country seemingly headed towards a modern version of a civil war? Why...with Google at our fingertips, the ability to read and reason, do we not look up from the share button and think about what we're doing or why we're doing it? What happened to looking at the end of an article for a damn SOURCE to find out whether or not the article is fact based. At. All? Where did we lose the ability to understand that op-ed means its a damn opinion of the writer...not fact...OPINION? Look. It. Up.
But here's the thing, the one piece that seems to be lost on all of us. Okay, maybe most of us. And if you don't agree, fine, but you're not being honest with yourself if that's the case. Your feelings are your job. Not mine. Not anyone but yours. Period.
Don't like what someone has to say because it pisses you off? It offends your sensibilities? Your belief of what is right and wrong? Okay. But as the infamous quote from Eleanor Roosevelt goes, "No one has the right to make you feel inferior without your consent." Adjust it a little and I'd say it like this: you have EVERY right to your feelings. Every right. But YOU have to decide what you're going to do about them. Are you a victim to them? Their words? Their agenda? Do you want to fight back? Hurt someone the way that they hurt you? Let's move it a step further...WHY? Why does it piss you off, hurt your feelings or make you want to high five them. In the face. With a chair?
Stop for just a minute. Stop after you read the meme, the article, the post. Take a deep breath and explore it. I promise it won't hurt. Not one bit. And if we don't...as individuals, communities and a country start to take a minute, we are headed down one long-ass path to nowhere.
Explore it. That's what I said. And I'm just as guilty as the next. This has become about politics, but fill in the blank with whatever subject is filling your feed - and your head - and taking your energy and look at it.
It starts with a statement that illicits a response. For instance, one from a recent article posted that I vehemently disagree with: "But I do know I’m done trying to convince these hordes of selfish, cruel people to look beyond themselves." Here's a hint dear author, whoever you are...you don't need to convince me. Your statement tells me everything I need to know. My viewpoint & my beliefs have now made me cruel and selfish and without any ability to look beyond myself. (Insert a little go fuck yourself about now). You'll never convince me because I will never hear you. I won't take a single breath without dismissing any words that come out of your mouth - or your keyboard - because you've already hung me in the corner.
So I shared the article captioned with 'all articles like this need to go to journalism hell' or something of the sort. I didn't personally slam the author, categorize her into a list of all things undesirable and unworthy. I don't need to to disagree with her. I also know why her article pushes a button. Because she DOES do it to anyone who might fall in the category of NOT agreeing with her. She's trying to convince me of my unsavory character traits while painting herself as holier-than-thou, right and to some degree elitist. And more than that, she never once, bothered to ask, much less listen to my side.
I'm adopting a new attitude today. One I'm going to do my dead level best to maintain. No promises. I'm a fiery red-head with an attitude and a sassy mouth to go with it. I don't mind a good debate, and as my cousin so aptly put it...it's like poking a dead body. Sometimes it's just interesting to watch people unfold. But I'm going with one of my favorite jokes from my younger days...
Two women from high school run across one another in their 30s. In their attempts to catch up, one woman lists all the things her husband has bought her, places he's sent her, so forth and so on. All in the haughty tone of the arrogantly rich. Each time she pauses to take a breath, the other woman simply inserts, 'How nice.' I imagine this in the most Southern, bless-your-heart drawl. Finally, the first woman asks, "Well honey, what has your husband done for you?!" She replies, "He sent me to Finishing School." Quizzically the first woman ask what Finishing School is. "It's where I learned how to say 'How nice instead of fuck you.'"
I know we are all quite capable of reading posts without taking offense - or at the very least, continuing to scroll past them until something warm and fuzzy catches our attention and we move on. But I sincerely urge anyone who's decided to be judge, jury and executioner towards another persons politics, religion, fashion, looks, sexuality or whatever-the-hell else is jumping on your last nerve to take a deep breath. What is it you really want to say? What point are you really trying to get across? And if you're on the receiving end, however it makes you feel, it's up to you what you do with that information.
We're human and most of us love a good scuffle now and again...especially if it allows us to get our frustrations out about something else. But we are responsible for where we are. Individually, collectively and as a whole. Each of us plays a part. So the question becomes, do you want to be a part of the problem or a part of the solution?
Two wrongs don't make a right. And eye for an eye doesn't always solve the problem...the problem doesn't even get addressed. Every single one of us should be in the same boat, rowing in the same direction. Instead we've got people rowing while other people are poking holes in the bottom of the boat.
In the case of politics, government is a big, slow-moving wheel. It's not going anywhere fast and we damn sure aren't getting rid of the greed and the crooks overnight. Focus on issues that matter to you. Want people to join your fight? PERSUADE me. Show me HOW you'd like to see it happen. Present an IDEA, a concept that we can actually discuss - and then be open to the actual discussion. Most of us are much more likely to listen if we feel like we stand a chance of being heard.
So I'll be saying silently to myself a lot of 'How nice' as I try to disengage from the hurtful rhetoric. I'll be focusing on how I feel about it, why I feel that way and what I want to do about it. I may enjoy a few discussions along the way, but I'll be trying hard to do my part to help heal this nation instead of divide it. Whatever that may look like today.